What is the one thing you want more than anything? Whether it be a loving relationship, a killer career, or lots of money, ask yourself what is it that really drives you. Than ask yourself if you have this one thing that you really really want.
I would bet many of you don't have what you want, and this drives you CRAZY! I mean, why is it so hard to get all that you are asking? The Law of Attraction (LoA) says if you want something you just need to believe that you are going to get it, then viola, it will manifest. In spite of me using the LoA in all that I do, this "simple" notion would send me in a tailspin often yelling out, "What am I doing wrong?!!"
I know for many of you, it's when things don't appear that you give up on the LoA and say its just a bunch of humbo jumbo and go back to your old ways of doing things. But I invite you to hang tight and keep reading through. Because there is an answer in all of this madness.
The answer is we get in our own way and put up walls of resistance that then stops the divine from delivering what we are asking. Imagine a river that flows with all that you are wanting. This flow is natural and moves in the forward momentum with ease. In a perfect world, there would be no naysayers in our lives. There would be no negative experiences nor past wounds that needed to be healed. But we are human, so we have the challenge of being alive. These negative moments are the boulders that are placed in the river, which then impede the flow.
But there is a way around this. There is a way of moving around those boulders as if they are merely placed there for our entertainment, and not to ruin us. Because in truth the water is still flowing. We just need to stop getting in the way of the flow.
I've developed 3 steps to helping you get out of your own way thereby allowing the gifts of life to be hand delivered to you.
Step one: When the going gets hard, divert.
For many years (6 1/2 to be exact) I longed for a relationship. It was the one thing I wanted more then anything, and yet it just wasn't coming. Then I realized the more I thought about it, the more I remembered that I was still single, which is not what I wanted.
So I decided to take my attention off of it for a while (I already put my request into the Universe, there was no need to keep shouting my order). I loved to decorate my garden and my house and found such joy doing this. Before I knew it, I was in a place of joy and had raised my vibration so the divine could resume its flowing.
So when you find yourself ruminating about what you want and get frustrated that you don't have it, divert your attention to something completely different. You never know what can come out of this grand new hobby.
Step two: Take a nap.
That's right. You heard me. Go to sleep already! When we sleep we stop that negative flow and get a do over. Our negative momentum, when its been going for a while, is difficult to stop. Much like trying to stop a speeding car, there is no hope in surviving that with your bare hands.
Instead, we need to give our minds a rest so we can than start off fresh and take charge of our thoughts when we wake up. I once did this when I was trying to figure out what I would be teaching at my LoA group. Since I taught this every other week for over 4 years, it was sometimes challenging to come up with new material. When I tried to figure it out, right on the heals of that thought was resistance saying, "you've got nothing!"
So I took a nap. Then when I woke up I sat up and said "Nerf Guns!" The entire class flowed into my consciousness and I taught a successful group on how to have more fun in life (which involved a Nerf gun war!).
When you're stuck in doubt and you're in fifth gear of negativelandia, close those eyes and give that mind a rest already!
Step 3: Practice mindfulness.
Take a look around you and see how much green is in the room. Think of this as an "I Spy" game and see how much you can find. Then play with all of your senses. What do you smell? Food? Perfume? Grass? What do you feel on your finger tips right now. Is the surface soft and smooth? Is it cold and hard? Do this exercise for a few minutes and notice how relaxed you feel.
When you give your mind a break, you stop resisting and thereby raise your vibration. According to Abraham Hicks, it only takes 17 seconds to raise your vibration when you think good thoughts. When you are practicing mindfulness, you allow only the present moment in, which in most likely hood is pretty darn good. No matter how bad your life may be, I would bet that you are still breathing. Doesn't it feel good to breathe?
Our lives are meant to be filled with love and joy. It is truly our responsibility to focus on that. If you are wanting something and it's not coming, try these three steps to decrease your resistance. A side effect to all of this is more joy and peace. Talk about a bonus!